Itiswidelyacknowledgedthattobeselflessisagreatvirtue.Selflessnessistaughttobethequalityofagreatperson,tobealwaysgivingexpectingnothinginreturn,andtoputtheneedsandwantsofothers'aboveourown.Onemightaskwhythischaracteristicinahumanissodesirable.Manypeoplewouldagreethatthepersonappearstobenice;sheorheisanicepersonwhodoestherightthing.人们普遍认为无私是一种美德.我们被教导无私是一个出色人物的品质,总是付出、不求回报,急人所急、想人所想.我们可能要问为什么人的这种品质如此为人推崇,许多人的答案会是因为这是好人做的事,这个人总是做正确的事情.
Forexample,ourcommonsenseandconsciencetellsusthatitisnotgoodorrighttosteal,lie,cheat,orhurtotherpeople.Timesdon'tchangebythemselves,wechangethem.Bekindtoothersandsavourthekindnessshoweredinreturn.比如,常识和良心告诉我们,偷窃、撒谎、欺骗、伤害他人是不对的.时代不会改变,是我们人类改变了一切.对别人好,也常常会收获善意.
Onewaytoliveaselflesslifestyleistomanageangerthroughselflessthinking.Angercanbecontrolledbyshiftingattentionfromone'sowndesirestotheneedsandfeelingsofothers.Butlikemanyotherthings,selflesslifestylerequiresstrongcommitmentandpeseveranceandwilltokeeplearningandgrowing.一种无私生活的方式就是运用无私的思考方式来克制自己的愤怒.通过将注意力从个人的欲望转移到他人的需求和感受,就可以克制自己的怒气.但是就像许多其他事情一样,无私的生活方式需要坚持、投入,愿意不断学习、不断成长